Goal for the day: spend as much time as I can on the M.A. project. Step 1: Find the notes from my last draft. So: searched and searched and can't find them. Frustration. Anger. Self-loathing, etc, etc. Until: sat down and made the drawing above. Then: decided to take a different tack - reading "sista docta" (Joni L. Jones) and going through my notes on "What the Buddha Taught" (Rahula) to bolster my argument for using a phenomenological approach to thinking about ADHD. Result: yep. When stalled, switch gears.
All of this made me think of using the phrase “The only way to it is through it.” Which made me think: “where did this phrase come from?”
Earliest reference I could find was in a poem by Robert Frost titled “A Servant to Servants” (1914). A woman – exhausted from taking care of her husband and many men who seem to room with her – is ruminating about a new fellow who is camping out on their property. How she finds that attractive – that he has just walked away from life and is living in nature.
Here’s the original passage from Frost:
Len says one steady pull more ought to do it. He says the best way out is always through. And I agree to that, or in so far As that I can see no way out but through—
The line seems to refer to her husband’s attitude toward her exhaustion and possible mental illness. He argues that she should just “tough it out”. I’m not sure that’s the answer in ALL cases, but it got me through the morning. I went “through” it by accepting that I was not going to find what I wanted and that there was still plenty of other work to get done.