Provisional Conclusions is a collection of my poetry over the years. It includes thoughts about ADHD, losing Amy, travelling, and thinking about life ina general. Please check it out!
Notes on Engaging a Resistant Partner (Orlov/Tuckman)
Notes on my Non-ADHD Partner Panel
Managing RSD – note on Beth Bardeen’s presentation
from 2021 Virtual International Conference on ADHD
I’m going to share my notes on some of the sessions I attended at the conference. These are my notes and any errors/misinterpretations are completely my fault and not the fault of the presenters.
Remember to tell the people you care about that you care about them
This article was shared in last week’s non-ADHD Partner Support Group and I liked it so I thought I’d share it with a wider audience. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/10-ways-to-show-people-they-matter-and-why-its-im_b_6172792
Coping Strategies for being home all day with ADHD
Diversity – what we can learn from biodiversity
Years ago, I read a very good article about diversity. It started by talking about diversity among humans, but expanded the discussion to talk about diversity in general. I’ve always believed it’s important to have different types of . . . everything! . . . and it was good to see a scientific argument for it, rather than just an argument from aesthetics or human rights. I don’t recall where the original article came from (I’m pretty sure I found it while I was researching seed banks), but I ran across one recently that made many of the same points. Hope you like it.
https://www.mnn.com/earth-matters/wilderness-resources/blogs/why-biodiversity-big-deal
Thoughts About ADHD/Day 19-28 – Thoughts about These Missing Posts (2019 ADHD Awareness Month)
October is ADHD Awareness Month and during that month, I’ll be doing daily posts to share some of what I’ve learned about ADHD. I’ll post some of my favorite books, articles and websites, as well as some of my own thoughts about living with ADHD.
My last post here was on Friday, October 18, which means that I missed my target of “doing daily posts through the month of October”.
Which means … what exactly?
One way to look at it is to say “yep, that’s typical ADHD behavior: it sounded really exciting at the end of September and less exciting on the 18th, so I just flaked out.”
Another way to think of it is just to smile and say “well, the odds of it happening were slim anyway and wow! I got through 18 days, so that’s really pretty good!”
Both of the above have some truth to them, but neither of them feel exactly right. What happened was a combination of things. Some new things came up, some things I wanted to do took longer than I had planned, and I spent a little time reconnecting with some old friends. I feel good about being able to rearrange my priorities to support those things, even if it meant giving up some others (like this).
I think that’s an important lesson for us ADDers. Sometimes it’s OK not to follow through on something. And, yes, I know how dangerous that is to say to someone with ADHD, but that commitment didn’t affect anyone but me, and I’m OK with the change.
Thoughts About ADHD/Day 18 – ADHD and Sleep (2019 ADHD Awareness Month)
October is ADHD Awareness Month and during that month, I’ll be doing daily posts to share some of what I’ve learned about ADHD. I’ll post some of my favorite books, articles and websites, as well as some of my own thoughts about living with ADHD.
Yawn… Stretch.. OK, ready to go!
It’s 2 a.m. One part of my brain is telling me to go to sleep. It told me that at 11:30, 11:45, then once more just a little after 1. I would expect it to give up, but no. It tried again just now.
It’s easy to ignore, especially since I don’t feel tired. I did back around 10:30 but that was too early to go to bed! And now that I have my second wind, I know I wouldn’t fall asleep anyway.
Sound familiar? For a lot of us ADDers, it is.
A lot has been written in the last few year about the relationship between ADHD and sleep. “Does sleep deprivation cause ADHD?” “Does ADHD cause sleep deprivation?” “Is one misdiagnosed as the other?” I haven’t read a lot about it, but what I’ve read tells me we have a way to go before we have a good answer.
One thing is clear though: for me (and a lot of others), these things are both part of me. It’s not all that important to me if I know which causes which. I need to work on both of them.
As you can see (it’s now 2:20 a.m.), I’m not there yet. But, I’m going to bed as soon as I finish this.
Really…well, one more thing. Here are a few links to get you started learning about this.
ADHD or Sleep Disorder: Are We Getting It Wrong?
Thoughts About ADHD/Day 17 – ADHD and Relationships [3 of 3] (2019 ADHD Awareness Month)
October is ADHD Awareness Month and during that month, I’ll be doing daily posts to share some of what I’ve learned about ADHD. I’ll post some of my favorite books, articles and websites, as well as some of my own thoughts about living with ADHD.
This is the 3rd and final post linking to a series of articles I wrote in 2018 recapping some of the things I’ve learned hosting ADDA’s non-ADHD Partner Peer Support Group. This group is still active, and if you think it would be helpful for you, check out the list of Virtual Support Groups offered free for ADDA members.
Article 3: Actions and Additudes – 7 Relationship Strategies for Non-ADHD Partners
Thoughts About ADHD/Day 16 – Video Clip Wednesday (2019 ADHD Awareness Month)
October is ADHD Awareness Month and during that month, I’ll be doing daily posts to share some of what I’ve learned about ADHD. I’ll post some of my favorite books, articles and websites, as well as some of my own thoughts about living with ADHD.
Wednesdays and Saturdays, I’m going to share with you some videos I’ve made over the last few years that are related – in one way or another – to ADHD.
Here’s a video my daughter Lisa and I made back in 2013 about my ADHD through her eyes.